7 Tips to Get the Most Steamy Hookups Ever

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It can be difficult to hook up! Although dating apps make it easier to get action, it can be difficult. The butterflies of "do i make a move?" are gone. You don't have to give up just because you have a lot of options.

Experts and sex therapists break down the key points to remember before you hook up with someone.

1. Get consent.

If this is murky territory or you're not sure if you and your partner have given affirmative consent, then you should stop looking. When it comes to hooking-up, mutual consent and mutual enjoyment should be your north star. Jules Purnell (M.Ed, sex educator) says that the point of hooking up is to feel good together.

"The purpose of hooking up is to feel good together."

2.Be sincere about your intentions.

Georgie Wolf, a sex educator and author of The Art of the Hook-Up, says that it is crucial to be clear about your goals when you are looking for someone to hook up with(Hook up in Calgary). You can be clear about whether you're looking for a relationship with someone or not. You can either ask the right person for the same things or give them time to think it over and then gracefully walk away. You're giving them the chance to give or withhold consent to what they want. This is crucial. Purnell says that you shouldn't assume that they are automatically on the same page.

3. Get in touch with them.

Is there anything more painful than being phubbed? Focus all your attention on your partner and make them feel special. Amy Baldwin, a sex educator, relationship coach and co-host on the Shameless Sex Podcast, says that most people tend to be in their heads more than their bodies. This can lead to touch feeling robotic or mechanical, rather than sensual and sexy. This can be countered by moving your lips and hands according to what feels right (within the bounds of consent, obvi). You'll feel more sexy if you pay less attention to how you look.

4. Take a look at their eyes.

A different way to make your partner melt? Direct eye contact. Direct eye contact shows you care about the other person and you are fully invested in them. You want to focus on the other person. You can get a better understanding of their interests and create a connection. Julie Melillo is a New York-based dating coach.

5. Follow the example of others.

Sometimes, the most frustrating part about waiting for someone else to move is waiting. Don't be afraid of taking control and being the first to take charge. Abby Dent, a sex expert and relationship expert, said that if you are both interested in it, it is a good idea to make the first move. You will be greeted by your partner with a "phew" and you'll be very grateful that you took the first step.

"Don't be afraid of leaning in first,"

6. Do what you feel is best for you.

Jordin Wiggins is a sex expert and naturopathic doctor who says that one of the most common mistakes when it comes to hooking up with someone is not taking advantage touch. She adds that the best kissing is when your lips feel good and foreplay is when you do what you love. It is okay to be selfish. Wiggins states that your partner will feel the warmth of your desire when you touch them in a way they love. You can amplify your partner's desire to touch you for pleasure and not just to get something off your hookup bucket.

7. Remember to look after your neck.

Want to escalate or go further? Dent suggests that you gently touch your partner's neck and kiss them in a way that draws them closer. Dent suggests that it's easy to get distracted and wrap your arms around your partner, but you can make things more primal and even more hot by using the neck's nerve receptors.

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